Recently I had lunch with a friend I’ve likely known longer than any other. We grew up together on the West Side of Columbus and have kept in touch now more than 30 years. Since that lunch, he gave me one of my favorite gifts: a book recommendation.
Working in and around politics is a tough gig because you are forced into friction and conflict on a daily basis. Especially as campaign operatives, winning those conflicts is a way of life – quite literally the way you make your life. My friend Bobby – like so many of us in the past 15 or so years – seems to be getting his fill of that conflict.
All I can say is, “same.”
Going into this midterm season, we can expect a lot more of that conflict. And for many, that will cause them to throw their hands up, say “to hell with it,” and check out. It’ll even happen to a lot of folks who are typically active in local politics.
What happens to finally push these grassroots warriors to walk away? How do experienced advocates, with so much invested in a party, a candidate, or an issue decide it’s just time to step away?
Well, Bobby’s book recommendation had a great way of describing the phenomenon: they reach their saturation point.
Amanda Ripley, in the book High Conflict, dissects the consistent themes we see in conflict at every level, from interpersonal to international. Released in 2021, I think this book will seem evergreen for a long time to come – especially when we take the time to look into our own saturation points.
We’ve likely all experienced them – those times when we’ve just had enough of the conflict experience, and opt out. It looks different for so many scenarios. As Ripley wrote about divorce she drew on the imagery of the burnt out, estranged lover finally conceding far more than expected just to be done. As she referenced gang warfare in Chicago, and guerrilla warfare in Colombia, she draws on images of individuals being reminded of their identity beyond those conflicts.
Ripley is a powerful storyteller, drawing the reader into the realities these individuals faced and helping them empathize with the subjects. And as I read this piece, I can’t help but to spend a great deal of reflection time relating those foreign (to me) experiences to my own work – as a leader and a political professional.
In 2018 and 2019, I reached my saturation point with party politics. I realized I needed to explore my other identities, beyond those defined by the people for whom I worked. It was a pivotal moment in my own career – and one that led to the same response others have when they hit their saturation points: I had to get some space. My space meant no longer working for individual candidates and elected officials, and instead working for an advocacy group on specific issues.
(It also helped at the time that we began expecting my firstborn. Like Ripley writes in her book, many reach their saturation points when their identity as a parent takes precedence. At the time I was even seeking a nomination to run for a legislative district in my state legislature. Becoming a father-to-be made the decision to leave campaign politics a no-brainer. Now years removed from that choice, I can view it as the saturation point it really was and know for a fact I’d have made the same choice over and over again.)
If you are entering this current election cycle already overwhelmed by the headlines and the hubris of politics, you may want to pick up a copy of this book. It will help you recognize the affect all of that partisanship is having on you. But why is that really important?
Well, frankly, it’s because good advocacy requires committed advocates to keep showing up. And if we’ve hit our saturation point in the partisan politics of it all, we’re just that much, and even more, likely to pull back, and retreat from the critical advocacy our issues require. Learning from Ripley’s studies on the subject will arm you to better recognize when you’re approaching that saturation point, and maybe just what to do about it.
One of the topics I discuss frequently is just how we’ve conflated the terms activism, advocacy and politics in our lexicon. While related, each has their distinct characteristics. And if we continue to confuse the high conflict attributes of political activism with the healthy conflict attributes of advocacy, we will continue to see our own efforts suffer.
Our saturation points will cause us to avoid meeting with a key decision maker of the opposition’s political persuasion. Our saturation points will discourage us from participating even on basic levels. Our saturation points will simply undercut our ability to continue showing up to participate in the cumulative and iterative processes of sound advocacy. And that’s important to know.
Because the people who continue to show up – despite their saturation point and despite the high conflict driving them bonkers – are the people who tend to get things done. If you want to be one of those success stories, this book could be a helpful tool in getting you there.
That’s why I’m proud to add it to the Bookshelf, and recommend it to any of you who is serious about moving the needle on the issues you’re truly committed to serving.
